Social Network Etiquette for the TMI Drama

Too much information with social sharing is a filter many users need help with. Filtering drama, arguments, opinions and controversy within social networks comes with its own dose of patience.

We don’t want to know that Aunt Mary’s toe is infected, or that our friend Sue and her significant other broke up again for the tenth time.

Social network drama – it’s everywhere. How you handle it is the question.


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Our friends lacking a filter for too much information are our friends after all. Strangers who ride the drama roller coaster on the other hand can be unfollowed, unfriended or blocked. It’s simple unless it’s your friend creating and posting it all the time, then it’s a trickier decision.

You can flat out tell the drama curator that you are unfollowing or unfriending them. No explanations are needed. Or just do it, chances are they may not realize it happened. What if that’s not an option because their social connections are so small.

Drama filters:

  • Realize the drama doesn’t impact you so don’t read it, scroll past the post fast
  • Use the block user setting
  • Ignore posts
  • Take a deep breath
  • Find happiness in rainbow photos
  • Don’t envy

Humans are imperfect, we all make mistakes. Do we have to share them with the whole social sphere though?  If you find yourself tempted to post TMI and you are hesitating, listen to your inner voice and wait an hour. Maybe you’ll find the emotional trigger for the drama has passed and thankfully you didn’t tell Aunt Mary to stick her toe business elsewhere.

Many socially unconnected people have found friendship and conversation within their web connected network. Maybe there isn’t anyone else to speak to nearby for the venting they need to do. Let’s take the high road and use some of the drama filters above to get past it all.

My Dad used to say if you don’t have anything good to say, don’t say it. Advice I try to follow.

What are your thoughts? Do you have anything else to add?

7 ways to help your teen on social media

Teens on social media is like letting a ten year old child drive – well almost. The difference is most teens are unsupervised on social media and the ten year old driver wouldn’t do it without an adult in the vehicle.

Ask your teen how many social networks they are on.

My youngest is eleven, she is on four social networks. I know her passwords and check her privacy settings often.

My teen is fourteen and on six networks. They’re both aware that I monitor what they post.

Teens are at risk on social media and it is your job to protect, teach and help them.




Here are 7 ways to help your teen on social media

  • Create a social media policy setting up rules of good and bad behavior.
  • Teach teens to separate facts from drama (there is a lot of drama on social media).
  • Talk to your teen every day about what’s up on social media, car rides are great for this. Don’t talk just listen!
  • Follow, friend, like and circle them as your social network contact.
  • Set a good example yourself on your own profile and posts, tweets or shared content.
  • Know your teens privacy settings and take time to check them bi-weekly.
  • Learn a neat trick and share it with them such as how to post in English (pirate) or English (upside down) on Facebook.

I’ve heard someone say at a social event that they didn’t want to friend their teen on Facebook because they were afraid the teen would see what they were posting. It was heartbreaking.

I’ve heard many ask well how do you do that? Or the scary “they’ll be mad at me if I friend them” – I think the teen runs that household.

My kids both know that if I see something inappropriate I’ll speak up immediately. My eleven year old thinks I know the owner of the social network and can have their account deleted – I let her believe it without saying a word.  I take away all access to all technology for breaking any rules, with no exceptions. Time periods for rule breaking at our house range from days to weeks to months. It scares them to think they won’t be able to use any technology including cell phones, laptops, television, ipods at all. They’ve each experienced it and it only happened once for them.


Tricks you can use to monitor your teen

  •  Let your Cousins, Aunts, Uncles, Grandma, close friends and family members your teen is on a social network and ask them to also friend, follow or circle them. Let them know about your social media policy. Tell your teen about your monitoring team.
  • Subscribe to your teens updates via text on Facebook read how here: the setting is under notifications.
  • Subscribe to their Twitter tweets via text (near the bottom of the page on the linked article) here:
  • Set up a Google alert with your teens nick name and city to email you when Google detects activity.
  • Tell your teens friends that you are watching your teen on social media.
  • Tell your teens friends parents that you monitor your child on social media and offer to share information with them.
  • Set up a free profile with your teens information at It’s a free and premium service offering reputation management and alerts for reputation management.

My kids teachers know I monitor my children on social networks and I share tips with them all the time.

What tips do you have? Leave them in the reply comments below.


Optimism and Social Media

Many friends, colleagues and family have commented that I am optimistic. I have a talent for viewing the glass half full, it is in my nature actually. A positive attitude may not solve all of your problems, but it will annoy enough people to make it worth the effort. So sorry if I ever annoy anyone with my persistent positivity.

Recent buzzing in Social Media within the online marketing community is optimization through the use of social media. Networking and connecting with friends and family has grown by leaps and bounds using social media. Businesses are catching on, they are optimistic about the desire to place their product, idea or service at the top of potential consumers mind. After all being “top of mind” is where businesses want to be.

Social networks come into play in a big way. Studies show that people check Facebook, Myspace, Linked in, Twitter and other networking sites frequently, some check in hourly. Checking in is done via phone, at work and at home. The connections made are important. What is said within your connections are important. People with similar likes and ideologies tend to group together and increase their social network size. Social Media use can be a vehicle to boost exposure which will increase a web presence.

What is Social Media Optimization? It is not being positive about the use of social media it is more about optimizing exposure of yourself or businesses using social media networks to expand and increase a web presence. Social Media Optimization works, it has been time tested and proven. Do not confuse it with SEO (search engine optimization) which is key to get yourself or your business noticed. If you are not familiar with SEO, Google it. I am not an expert in that field. I asked questions of a colleague and do use SEO, you should also.

Contact me for help with your specific Social Media Optimization needs. I promise to put a positive spin on your brand ~ wink wink.